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RulingSnowcap's avatar

Hey Tobias,

I liked your article, but I'm struggling with something more basic.

A lot of habit advice seems aimed at people who can stay consistent for weeks and then fall off. My problem is that I often can't stay consistent for more than 1–2 days before shame, depression or emotional overwhelm completely derails me.

When someone repeatedly fails before a habit even has time to become automatic, what's the right strategy?

Is the answer to lower the minimum viable dose even further, or is there a point where the issue isn't habit design anymore but something deeper?

How would you approach consistency for someone whose biggest obstacle is emotional dysregulation rather than lack of motivation?

Curious what you think.

Merideth Cohrs ⛵️'s avatar

I think this applies to so so many of us. It's easy to have a lot of intensity for a short period of time, but the long haul seems impossible if you look at it all at once. I often think of the Al Pacino quote from Any Given Sunday - "the inches we need are everywhere". We just have to teach ourselves to recognize the inches as success and not small potatoes.

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